It’s roughly 30 days till I turn the big 30. August 17 is a the big day. A few years ago I read an article in Glamour Magazine:
Here I blogged about my current status in 2012 on whether I knew and had what the article had listed and I thought it would be fun to answer them again to see how much I’ve changed and grown as a person since then by comparing my answers.
Here are my current answers. (I did not read my previous answers before jotting down my updated ones)
By 30, you should have:
- One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. There’s one whom I greatly respect but I wouldn’t necessarily go back to. And one who I happily leave in the past.
- A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family. My entire bedroom furniture is fairly new and purchased by my husband and I.
- Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. My wardrobe is filled with casual professional that fit my current style.
- A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying. I have no need for a briefcase and I shamelessly carry my daughters pink owl umbrella when it rains.
- A youth you’re content to move beyond. I have made peace.
- A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. I have plenty of stories from college to share when the time is right.
- The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it. Savings, 401K, and college funds have all been set up.
- An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you. Email and cell are both a yes. My husband and I share a bank account. It works for us.
- A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded. Who has the time for lies? Not I.
- One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. We may be miles apart, but she is my family.
- A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra. No, No and No. I know how to use them if needed and I donut like lace. It shows through clothes.
- Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. My Michael Kors purse and wallet.
- The belief that you deserve it. Of course I do.
- A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30. Skincare I have down. I always say I’ll introduce an exercise routine, but I probably won’t anytime soon.
- A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better. I have been very fortunate in both my career and marriage.
By 30, you should know:
- How to fall in love without losing yourself. Finally, I do!
- How you feel about having kids. 2 kids and I feel great. I feel complete.
- How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. I resigned from two positions within the last 6 months (story for another day)and left on good terms both times. I haven’t had to break up with a man in a long time and don’t ever plan on doing that again. The best friendships are rare and I’m one of the lucky ones.
- When to try harder and when to walk away. I think this is incredibly unique for each person and I know my limits and thresholds.
- How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next. This is an easy one.
- The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town. Sadly, I don’t know any of these.
- How to live alone, even if you don’t like to. This I recently failed at.
- How to take control of your own birthday. I’m not a fan of my birthday. I genuinely don’t enjoy being the center of attention. If any big plans are made, my husband has made them.
- That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents. I only had my second baby 9 months ago, so my body is still adjusting.
- That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over. I’m in a good place with my childhood. It wasn’t perfect but I certainly learned a lot and that knowledge impacts who I am today.
- What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love. Money is money. A huge paycheck isn’t worth never seeing my children.
- That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long. I got my first cavity at the age of 29, I was not impressed with myself. Sunscreen should be added to this list.
- Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally. For the first time in my life I am not taking the faults and insecurities of others personally and it’s liberating.
- Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. I tend to apologize a lot and I know I need to work on this.
- Why they say life begins at 30. I have been more myself and true to who I am, and understand my strengths and weaknesses (accept) more in the last 5 years than I have in the 25 prior. The older I get I become more confident and comfortable in my own skin. I also find that there is less drama in my life now – yes my life is more routine than it has ever been but routine provides stability. I know how to have fun but in an adult way which is free from paranoia and possible guilt. I also plan for the future where in my early 20’s I would live each day as they weren’t connected together. A bill you don’t pay today will haunt you tomorrow.
Overall, I know that I have grown tremendously over the past three years. To the core, I am who I am but I have made progress and have grown. I know that as I enter my 30’s I will only continue to grow and mature. A lesson that I have always known but am able to live today is that hard work and patience really pays off in life. I live a wonderful life and I am slowly accepting the fact that I will be in my 30’s but I am excited to see what lies ahead and where all my continued hard work and patience leads.