On a recent Saturday Night, the Hubby and I went out to dinner with another couple. We left Little Miss with his parents so we could have a some “Grown -Up” time. We dropped her off, laid out some her things that she wanted to bring and hung out for a few minutes. When it was time to go I asked her for a Hug and a kiss. Her response “Mom, I’m busy!” Instantly, I get a pang in my stomach.
Do I leave her too much that she’s so used to it? How at 3 1/2 is she already pulling away from me? I must be a bad mom!?
Now to be fair, we hardly ever leave her. Maybe once every month or two, and it’s usually because a family member is asking to spend time with her. When we do leave her, it has ALWAYS been with a family member.
I know that I’m not bad Mom. There are moments when I could have been more patient or handled things better or just sat on the floor and played longer. There is always room for improvement. But overall I like to think I’m doing a pretty damn good job.
When Little Miss was much younger, leaving her was a full on battle. She would cry and scream and kick. Beg and plead me not to leave her. Which broke my heart every single time, and I would cry in the car on the way to the destination for the night. So now that she is comfortable being away from me, and secure enough to know that I always come back and has complete trust in her family members; I don’t know what hurts more. Her not wanting me to leave, or her being okay with me leaving?
How do you handle leaving your children with a babysitter?