30 Things Every Woman should know or have before they turn 30

I was reading this article on the 30 things that every woman should have or should know before they turn 30. I just turned 27 and am starting to freak out about turning 30 in a few years. Saying I’m in my thirties just sounds so much older than saying I’m in my twenties. I struggled with a lot of the same issues after I had my daughter. I don’t want to lose certain parts of who I am because of a label. Just as I learned that not wearing mom-jeans, and not baby proofing my house to point of it not feeling like a home anymore does not make me any less of a good mother. I will learn all over again, no label can define who I am, unless I let it.

Lets get to the list:

By 30, you should have:

  1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.  – This would be a check on both parts. Maybe a few checks on the not so great boyfriends.
  2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.  – Check, however I did not buy them, so I don’t think they count. Good furniture, that I pick out and pay for is now on my to do list.
  3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.  – I’m one of those girls, that thinks I have nothing to wear, but I’m sure I could pull this off.
  4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.  – Purse; Check. I do not own a suitcase or umbrella.
  5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.  – This is something that I am working on. Forgiveness is hard, and forgetting is near impossible. I still have a long way to go.
  6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.  – Check. I had a lot of fun in college. Some stories just might never be re-told.
  7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.  – That would be a big fat NO on both parts. Saving and shopping don’t go hand in hand well.
  8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.  – Check on all three parts. My husband and I share a bank account, but I do have my own account just in case.
  9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.   – Yes, I can say that I have this.
  10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.  – Over the years the friend in this role has changed a few times, as it usually does. The bond between friends you make when you are a child and when you are an adult are so severely different. The friends you make when you are an adult are truer friends.
  11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.  – I actually own none of these.
  12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.   – Does my education count? Probably not. One day I want to get myself a Louis Vuitton.
  13. The belief that you deserve it.  – I have always wanted one. And yes I deserve it.
  14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.  – Skincare regimen, I have one, not great at following it and my skin will show it. I hate exercising, so I have three years to find my lost love for it.  I guess if things get really bad there is always botox and plastic surgery. Just kidding. Sort of.
  15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.  – I’m actually pretty lucky in the career and relationship department.

By 30, you should know:

  1. How to fall in love without losing yourself. –  I think all girls have a relationship that they get lost in, and I am no exception. All relationships have issues, but from the beginning of I have always been myself through and through, and maybe that’s part of why our relationship turned into a Marriage and it didn’t with anyone else.
  2. How you feel about having kids.  – Well since I have a three old, my feelings towards kids are strong.
  3. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. Check.  – Check and I think check.
  4. When to try harder and when to walk away.  – I think I have a pretty good understanding of these. Sometimes I could walk away sooner.
  5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.  – I have known this for a while now.
  6. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.  – Nope, only one and Nope.
  7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.  – I can’t even get lunch alone. I would never make it living on my own.
  8. How to take control of your own birthday.  – I’m not a fan of my Birthday so I don’t take charge I just follow what my husband plans.
  9. That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.  – As I get older, I become more comfortable in my own skin.
  10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.  –  True, but some scars last forever. Still learning how to forgive and forget.
  11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.  – I do know my boundaries.
  12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.  – I think this one is a little obvious.
  13. Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally. Yes, fully trust few people.
  14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.  – I do apologize all the time; it’s just an automatic response. Time to end that.
  15. Why they say life begins at 30.  – This concept is beyond me at this point in my life.

I still have lots of growing and learning to do before I turn 30. I still have three full years to achieve everything that I’m missing on this list.

One response to “30 Things Every Woman should know or have before they turn 30

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