I was reading this article on the 30 things that every woman should have or should know before they turn 30. I just turned 27 and am starting to freak out about turning 30 in a few years. Saying I’m in my thirties just sounds so much older than saying I’m in my twenties. I struggled with a lot of the same issues after I had my daughter. I don’t want to lose certain parts of who I am because of a label. Just as I learned that not wearing mom-jeans, and not baby proofing my house to point of it not feeling like a home anymore does not make me any less of a good mother. I will learn all over again, no label can define who I am, unless I let it.
Lets get to the list:
By 30, you should have:
- One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. – This would be a check on both parts. Maybe a few checks on the not so great boyfriends.
- A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family. – Check, however I did not buy them, so I don’t think they count. Good furniture, that I pick out and pay for is now on my to do list.
- Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. – I’m one of those girls, that thinks I have nothing to wear, but I’m sure I could pull this off.
- A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying. – Purse; Check. I do not own a suitcase or umbrella.
- A youth you’re content to move beyond. – This is something that I am working on. Forgiveness is hard, and forgetting is near impossible. I still have a long way to go.
- A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. – Check. I had a lot of fun in college. Some stories just might never be re-told.
- The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it. – That would be a big fat NO on both parts. Saving and shopping don’t go hand in hand well.
- An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you. – Check on all three parts. My husband and I share a bank account, but I do have my own account just in case.
- A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded. – Yes, I can say that I have this.
- One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. – Over the years the friend in this role has changed a few times, as it usually does. The bond between friends you make when you are a child and when you are an adult are so severely different. The friends you make when you are an adult are truer friends.
- A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra. – I actually own none of these.
- Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. – Does my education count? Probably not. One day I want to get myself a Louis Vuitton.
- The belief that you deserve it. – I have always wanted one. And yes I deserve it.
- A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30. – Skincare regimen, I have one, not great at following it and my skin will show it. I hate exercising, so I have three years to find my lost love for it. I guess if things get really bad there is always botox and plastic surgery. Just kidding. Sort of.
- A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better. – I’m actually pretty lucky in the career and relationship department.
By 30, you should know:
- How to fall in love without losing yourself. – I think all girls have a relationship that they get lost in, and I am no exception. All relationships have issues, but from the beginning of I have always been myself through and through, and maybe that’s part of why our relationship turned into a Marriage and it didn’t with anyone else.
- How you feel about having kids. – Well since I have a three old, my feelings towards kids are strong.
- How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. Check. – Check and I think check.
- When to try harder and when to walk away. – I think I have a pretty good understanding of these. Sometimes I could walk away sooner.
- How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next. – I have known this for a while now.
- The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town. – Nope, only one and Nope.
- How to live alone, even if you don’t like to. – I can’t even get lunch alone. I would never make it living on my own.
- How to take control of your own birthday. – I’m not a fan of my Birthday so I don’t take charge I just follow what my husband plans.
- That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents. – As I get older, I become more comfortable in my own skin.
- That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over. – True, but some scars last forever. Still learning how to forgive and forget.
- What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love. – I do know my boundaries.
- That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long. – I think this one is a little obvious.
- Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally. Yes, fully trust few people.
- Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. – I do apologize all the time; it’s just an automatic response. Time to end that.
- Why they say life begins at 30. – This concept is beyond me at this point in my life.
I still have lots of growing and learning to do before I turn 30. I still have three full years to achieve everything that I’m missing on this list.